Dear Valentines All
How many of you were brought up to put yourself last and that ‘loving’ yourself might mean you were either braggadocios or thinking you were unable to improve – NOT TRUE!!! So my BIG message of LOVE to you is – Appreciate yourself! Take time for yourself! Send out LOVE as you go about your day! Give love without any expectations and have a wonderful day.
WARNING – there are side effects! First, once you start this attitude for life, you will want to keep doing it even on days other than Valentine’s Day and second, you will find that you have reduced your stress levels and you are smiling and having a stupendous day! Loving yourself by taking up the simple Mind Chi Basic 8 minutes a day routine will build your resilience and give you a coping strategy to build your capacity to love.
Then I saw this article and thought that Debbie says it perfectly, so I am passing it on to you, on this special day of love.
How To Become Irresistible in Love
Some parts of our personality are like buried treasure and need to be kept private, a piece for ourselves stored for a rainy day. We do not need to give everything away to another person. Vulnerability is over-rated; anyway it is a matter of choice: how much, when and why. When we know who we are, we know how vulnerable we need to be.
Here are some tips to recognize our true love or rediscover it:
- Become lovable by loving yourself. This process involves knowing your gifts and then using them! You can’t be passive about who you are. You need to share your gifts.
- Open your heart up even if you have had many heart-breaking relationships. The next one might be your true love. You will recognize it because you have had a great deal of experience. You will know it through contrast.
- Maintain a level of curiosity. Even if you are involved in a long term relationship, keep exploring and asking the other person for opinions. Don’t always assume that you know what’s inside.
- Change it up. You can’t do the same thing over and over again, and expect to get a different result – whether it’s the way you argue or make love.
Debbie Mandel, MA is the author of Changing Habits: The Caregivers’ Total Workout and Turn On Your Inner Light: Fitness for Body, Mind and Soul, a stress-reduction specialist, motivational speaker, a personal trainer and mind/body lecturer. She is the host of the weekly Turn On Your Inner Light Show on WGBB AM1240 in New York City , produces a weekly wellness newsletter, and has been featured on radio/ TV and print media. To learn more visit: www.turnonyourinnerlight.com